Some people have test anxiety and struggle to get good grades on tests, which has nothing to do with how well they understand the material. A bad grade can come from stress, anxiety, burnout , lack of preparation or not fully understanding the material. None of those things have anything to do with being stupid. Sometimes other people can make us feel stupid, whether they mean to or not. If they criticize, patronize, or speak down to us, all of our self esteem can fly out the window.
In other cases though, constructive criticism can be really helpful. There are always opportunities for us to learn and do better! But no matter what, just because you have made a mistake or have more to learn does NOT make you stupid. When we feel stupid, it can be from a case of imposter syndrome. But the voice in our head keeps on insisting that we are stupid, so we start to believe it. Feeling stupid can obviously have a negative impact on mental health. It can be a sign of social anxiety disorder where the thought of looking stupid or saying the wrong thing in front of other people holds you back in life.
You avoid socializing, speaking up in class, or taking leadership at work out of fear of judgement. But if you feel uncomfortable talking with her, or absolutely know she's deliberately treating you this way, would you reconsider who you hang out with? You mentioned that there was another friend you're hanging out with, do they make you happy?
Stick around with them more often if they do, as I said before, your own happiness is important. Also, do you think the friendship you share with the "best friend" is a 'letting go' issue? I understand if it is heart-wrenching to let go of memories. Overall, I agree with Mrs. Dools, the pain you are experiencing is a part of life, especially the dreaded highschool era.
Think about talking to someone such as a counsellor, Beyond Blue too about how you are feeling. Btw, absolutely positootly no living creature who walks Planet Earth is a useless stupid ugly worthless person. Everyone is amazing in their own way. YOU are amazing, definitely worth it, and deserve happiness :.
I'm glad to hear the forum has been of some help to you so far, and I'm sorry to hear you've been down. I really wish I could take your pain away. Being a teenager in high school is a confusing, often difficult time, and as a person still in high school myself, I can relate to a lot of what you're feeling.
I agree with both Mrs Dools and TheGirlWhoWaited, you're a very caring and considerate person in looking out for your friends' happiness, but your happiness is really, really important as well! I know for me, it has helped a lot just to talk to someone about it and release the build up of emotions, whether that be a school counsellor, parent, GP, or a teacher that you trust.
I hope you can do this, as it can be really helpful. Please, I hope you remember that you are not a mistake, worthless or stupid! I know I don't know you, but I do know that you're here for a reason, and that you've made, and will continue to make, a positive impact. Each day in the university program I was pushed to a new limit and more and more was asked of me. The pace that I had to keep in order to retain my enrollment in the program was unbelievable, slowly eating away at my self-confidence and breaking my spirit.
Beneath the pressure to succeed I began to crumble, developing severe anxiety that crippled me each morning as I woke up to realize I needed to show up to class. Halfway through, I thought about dropping out for the first time.
You better graduate! My own self-worth was now completely dependent on how well I was doing in school, and I happened to be failing, dropping, or retaking a class each semester from the halfway point on. I turned to binge drinking and partying on the weekends to cope with the immense pressure I felt throughout the week. My partying put me in terrible situations from hitching rides with drunk drivers to the next party spot, to narrowly escaping a shooting.
Like thousands of college students across the United States, I fell victim to a sexual assault and I never reported it out of fear and embarrassment- a major catalyst to the downward tailspin that already had so much momentum. I became trapped in a world that was getting darker and darker by the day, and I did not know how to express my pain or ask for help.
I only knew to bottle things up and press on, and so I did. Others make me feel stupid. I cant even begin to explain this to myself because i have never sat, focused and wrote this down. My social anxiety caused me to lose 3 jobs in a row. Even if i work my ass off for someone i would always fall short because of the person i am. I could do everything right and still it wouldn't be enough. I fear i wouldn't able to do anything.
I am lost and confused, but whats new right. I am just getting ready for a ssdi hearing. My lawyer wants to know how PTSD affects me. I really don't even know how to explain it. One thing I do regually is spin in circles instead of just turning around. I'm sorry you are feeling depressed I truly am, I have the upmost sympathy for someone that feels as if they have no del worth due to their own thoughts derived from other or from a severe loss, depression is not a chemical imbalance it's a complex lack of neurotransmitters, I urge everyone of you to shake someone's hand, look them in the eye and shake their hand, help someone even if it makes u feel stupid, if you don't push this then oxytocin will pull you down, but if you pay it forward then oxytocin can lift you up and make you feel amazing, so wait for that smile or wait for that thank you after looking them in the eye, make sure your circadian rythm stays the same and you are getting plenty of serotonin from the sunlight, this will help melatonin which helps you sleep, I would more than recommend you purchase some magnesium flakes and make a liquid from them and spray yourself 20 to 40 times a day cause I think u and I with the rest of the world are magnesium deficient.
Start here and set yourself a goal, because if you have no goals then it reduces dopamine which can cause dementia, well my relief has arrived so I have to go but focus on yourself and not what the media and others say about how you should be And I encourage all of you not to give up!
The fact that you deal with anxiety, depression and ptsd everyday makes you so stronger then those without these issues! Thanks for writing this. And, reading the comments helped me realize I'm not alone. I feel like i shoot myself in the foot.
People say, "Be yourself Then, I walk away self criticising, judging myself, feeling alone, and like I screw everything up. On top of that, i have learned that not many people have the patience for a long term worrier and insecure person.
Literally, I will break down in tears and my thoughts turn to I sometimes wish I could move to the mountains, far away from people. But, I keep trying, hoping that it'll get better. I just googled "why does social anxiety make me feel so stupid" as I just left some terrible job interviews the first I've had in a year after my anxiety led me to completely mess them up.
I started crying and bashing myself immediately but I'm feeling a little better after reading this. I think low self esteem is a huge part of anxiety which rarely gets addressed in my experience. Well I honestly do not know exactly why anxiety takes the best of us turning ourselves against ourselves. Yes, it may seem like life is against us at times or most of the time, But remember this, never lose hope in yourself. You are the one that controls your body, although our brain might want to go against us at times, you have to fight back.
Hi, I'm just a 16 year old depressed, anxiety and suicidal teenager. I've been struggling with school since to beginning of this school year. I have this class that is a required to graduate high school and I'm having a hard time. Its so bad to the point where I've been questioning my future. Like what if I can't graduate because of this class? After I came back from school, I grabbed a knife and I was gonna hurt myself.
I called the cops cause I was scared. They took me to the hospital. I stayed there for a day and a half. In that day I called my mom and I told her that I wanted to kill myself. I told her I wanted to go home. Up in the sky. Recently I turned 16 and when I blew out my candles, my wish was to be dead at the of I feel so alone.
Sometime I pray to god that I don't wake up the next morning. I'm honestly tired of fighting. Tired of living. I've prayed to god for forgiveness that if I do commit suicide cause I know it's a sin.
Malu, I'm sorry to hear you're feeling so depressed. Depression and anxiety can get the best of all of us at times. Please reach out to a suicide hotline. It's a free service, and the trained staff will be able to help you. I wish you healing. Malu, just remember man, you have people that care for you. You might feel like you have it worse compared to everybody else but try to humble yourself. There are people experiencing a lot worse with mental and physical disabilities.
Not that it might help much, but remember that your brain will try to play tricks on you, that is when you have to catch that negative thought and stop it. I, myself struggle too, I feel like I can not hold a normal conversation with someone. I can't even hold a true friendship with people. But, I keep in mind, that one day everything will be better and laugh at the past. I know it is easier said than done, but if you stay negative then you will become negative but if you stay positive than you will be positive.
You have to almost find the right mental tool to help yourself when things get difficult. Malu, for me it's Music. For me it's putting on some earbuds, crank that SOB to 11, and feel the music. Heck, sometimes I'll sing! I suck at singing btw, but it's fun and a great way to release the bottled up crap inside. I really hope you find something that works for you. I have been diagnosed with depression and anxiety previously.
I found a way to cope with it. I recently had a baby. I feel fine towards my baby, but my partner tells me daily how stupid I am, and that I've spent my entire life being stupid. At first I'd ignore it and brush it off, but now it is the most difficult thing to do.
I find myself feeling stupid and crying, unable to hold a simple conversation and stay focused, because there is so much on my mind. Hi Keya, thank you for reaching out. On the one hand, I want to say that it's awesome that you've found ways to cope with the anxiety and depression in your life. On the other hand, it sounds like your partner is putting you down, which can greatly contribute to low-self-esteem, anxiety, depression, etc. I don't know the specific details of your relationship, but I would encourage you to seek some professional support.
Please give careful attention to what is best for your mental health as well as the well-being of your baby. I just feel there is something wrong with me. I came to conclusion that is anxiety. Today for example, i had a test. I studied and thought i will do good.
I just feel ashamed and disappointed on myself. I study and read but i forget easily. I look up same terminology over and over and i still forget.
Im very slow and i have to work in certain organizations. I cant just start from anywhere. After i start i decide it was a bad idea to start this way and i change things few times and never like it anyway. I feel tired, slow, stupid even. I feel suffocating and i cry alot. Small things makes me cry.
I feel overwhelmed. I know i have a lot on my plate and it should be normal what in feeling. Then i go back and just say no im just stupid. I have an ideal husband who adores me, a great child. But i dont give them as much as they give me.
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